What is a Sleep Divorce? And why you might want one.

What is a Sleep Divorce? And why you might want one.

In recent years, the concept of a "Sleep Divorce" has been gaining traction, but what does it really mean, and could it help you and your partner sleep better?

Unlike the traditional notion of divorce, a sleep divorce is a more positive step towards better sleep and well-being for both partners, especially when space allows, such as having a spare bedroom.

Understanding Sleep Divorce

A sleep divorce refers to the decision by partners to sleep in separate beds or rooms to address sleep disturbances and improve overall sleep quality. This arrangement can be especially beneficial for couples facing challenges like differing sleep schedules, snoring, restlessness, or the disruptive blue light from cell phone use before bed.

More Common Than You Think

While there is a traditional stigma around sleeping separately, more couples are enjoying the upside. About one-third of Americans have adopted this practice either occasionally or regularly to better accommodate each other's sleep needs, with millennials leading the trend at a reported 43%. This shift reflects a broader societal move towards prioritising personal well-being and quality sleep over outdated notions of a couple's bedtime routine.

And reportedly more, ahem, action.

Contrary to the stigma that sleeping apart might indicate a lack of intimacy, many couples find that a sleep divorce actually revitalises their relationship. Better-rested individuals are generally happier, healthier, and more inclined towards physical affection. Quality sleep can reduce irritability and stress, making couples more likely to engage in intimate moments.

Why its gaining traction

It's definitely not for everyone, but for certain couples it helps fosters an environment where couples make more intentional choices about their time together, leading to a deeper appreciation and connection. The personal space gained from sleeping apart can actually bring you closer, providing both partners with the opportunity to recharge and reconnect with more energy and positivity.

Embracing the Concept

Success in a sleep divorce lies in open communication and a mutual understanding of each other's needs. By discussing sleep preferences and disturbances openly, couples can find a solution that respects both partners' needs without sacrificing intimacy or connection. Remember, the goal is to enhance your life and relationship by ensuring both partners are well-rested and happy.


By Rory Macpherson